If someone is taking advantage of you.... IT'S BECAUSE YOU ALLOWED THEM TO! Yes, you. No one can do anything to you unless you allow them to. No one can upset you unless you give them the power to do so.
I'll give you a perfect example. Matter fact ill use my own prior situation as an example. I was dealing with a guy for a few years. I would always complain to my friends about how he wasn't treating me the way I wanted to be treated, how he continuously messed with other females, and the list goes on. All that time I would be mad at him and blaming him for my unhappiness, when I needed to blame the person in the mirror.
I was the one who continued to mess with him though I wasn't happy and it was ME who stayed after I found out he was talking to other females. I allowed him to get away with treating me the way he did, which led him to believe it was acceptable. By the time i said "enough is enough" it was too late.
If someone is treating you bad, don't expect that you can change them. People usually only change for themselves. If your love, time, and affection isn't enough for whomever to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, then they don't need to be a part of your life.
There are three MAJOR components that you should acknowledge:
1. Specify how you want to be treated from the beginning.
Being clear and concise will set a foundation and create a mutual understanding. There will be no preconceived notions and no presumptions. You could save your time and possibly someone else's.
2. Treat people the way you want to be treated.
You can't possibly believe that you can treat someone bad and/or disrespectful and think they're going to treat you good and with the utmost respect. Usually people give you back the energy you dish out. Why would you treat anyone in a way you wouldn't want to be treated?
3. Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.
This is very important. If you don't respect yourself no one else will either. No one will treat you better than YOU. However you present yourself people will treat you accordingly. If you don't care about you, who will?
In short don't blame the bullshitter, blame yourself for continuously accepting the bullshit. You can't keep saying all men/women ain't shit. Stop dealing with people who treat you like shit.
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